Why Waiting Children?

I have been reading a lot of adoption blogs lately and I notice that there is a lot of discussion around why people are hesitant to adopt waiting children (special needs/older children) so I wanted to share how we came to choose a waiting child. Adoption is a process in every sense of the word. Choosing to adopt is only the beginning of that process. Steve and I have grown so much since we started, and I am excited to see what this will do in our lives as we walk through this wonderful phase. When we first chose to adopt, we chose the "healthy list" for various reasons. First was, since we are not "young parents", we felt that this was our only opportunity to be on that list. We also started this process when Seth was 2, so it is encouraged to maintain birth order. And finally, I had a lot of fears about the waiting child list. I was afraid, for one, of an actual list where I might have to choose my child as if out of a catalog. I know that is not the intent, but it felt that way to me and I had a major fear of this. I also knew that there is a 72 hour window to make a decision and wondered how you can know in that time whether this was "the" child. I always knew that there were plenty of needs that we could handle, but had real fears about the process. Fears that lasted me about 3 1/2 years as we waited endlessly for our child on the "healthy" list and kept ourselves extremely busy raising our boys. Around last summer, Steve and I sat down to have a conversation. We decided that we needed to reflect on where we were in the process, how or if we wanted to proceed, and whether we felt we could navigate into these uncertain waters of "special needs". We prayed and discussed through the summer, and decided to move forward, update our paperwork, and jump in. Updating paperwork is no small task, so it was January before we were ready. On January 1, we prayed together, filled out the waiting child questionnaire, and stepped out. I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I am that we did. Who could imagine that this amazing little girl would be waiting on that list to be part of our family. All of the fears I had were so foolish, so unfounded. There is a list, but you can choose not to look. In fact, we didn't even have access to it. We did have 72 hours, but it only took moments for our hearts to leap to the easiest "yes" I have ever had to say in my life. Any child can have a "special need" at any time. But the truth is, that label scares people. I know it paralyzed us. But it has been a process and I wouldn't change it. God moved us just in time to bless us with this special little girl and I wouldn't change a moment of what brought us to this point. I now watch the Matched Waiting Child list grow and grow at Great Wall and I am humbled as I watch more and more of these precious children find their forever families. I just saw a video by rainbow kids that does an amazing job of showing what the Waiting Child list is all about.
 Here is the link. --> http://www.rainbowkids.com/ArticleDetails.aspx?id=774


Oh, and by the way, our approval came from the US for our I-800. Now, just one more to go from China and we can send everything back to get a travel approval. Woohoo!

Lisa